Here’s Why I Was Unfriended

This gal friended me on facebook then blasted her business in a mass message about how she had to sell $2000 TODAY —- I answered that I’ve been with that company for 13 years and she’s barking up the wrong tree trying to get me to become her client. She snarkily told all her friends in the mass message that in our business we’re supposed to support one another and be a sisterhood. And then she unfriends me.

So it’s fodder for a blog post.

Here is how I feel about getting along with fellow consultants from your same direct sales company.

1) Don’t EVER expect them to become your customer or ask their friends to become your customer.

2) DO support them, give them ideas, and cheer them on.

3) Don’t sell product to each other except in an emergency where you need something quickly or you need discontinued or past limited edition products for a client.  When you purchase from a fellow consultant you’re hurting your own production numbers with the company.

And here is how I feel about using facebook for your direct sales business.


2) LIMIT your business posts on your personal profile.  An occasional mention is great, but keep most business stuff to your business page.  On your personal profile you can mention how happy you are about a party you did or how flexible your schedule is because you work from home, but don’t post sales/promotions/buy my stuff more than once in a while.

3) Don’t friend others on facebook with the expectation that they will purchase from you.  Friend them because you have something in common or you want to get to know them.  Find out a little about them before you tell them about any promotion you’re running.  And if you find out they’re in your company already, SEE ABOVE!


Facebook is a wonderful tool for helping to promote your direct sales business, but DON’T be like my former facebook friend!



Aside from parenting special needs twins, Heather Price represents three direct sales and network marketing companies. She started with a popular skin care/ cosmetics company in 2000, and added the greeting card and video email companies in 2008 and 2012 specifically to encourage other direct sales professionals to use out of the box tools to promote their businesses. Heather enjoys selling the products and building teams with these companies. Do you need extra income? You can find out more from the “work with Heather” pull down menu at In 2012 she added social media services to her portfolio. For a limited number of clients, she tweets, pins, posts, connects, curates content, uploads videos, and generally explodes the social media presence of small businesses. Heather’s businesses can be found at , , and . To ask Heather about her social media services, put your info here:



38 Responses to Here’s Why I Was Unfriended

  1. Heather says:

    Can I just scream a big AMEN to this! I see people that use their personal profile for business and then spam the other stuff all over the business page too. I get tired of BUY NOW or anything else like that. Friend me for the reasons of what you said, not because you want me to buy.

  2. Heather Price says:

    exactly! And the I need to sell $2000 TODAY just comes off as desperate. Even if she private messaged it individually to people who ARE her clients (and not fellow consultants!). Well I guess she wasn’t looking for supportive friends in the same company— just potential clients. Sad!

  3. Oh yes, Heather! And by the way, I also need $2,000 today, too. Can you help me out? ;-)It just amazes me how little people know about the use of social media for business. Good reminder…thanks for sharing!

  4. Great advice, you hit the nail on the head. Definitely important not to over post BUY MY PRODUCT, it gets old and very annoying.

    • Heather Price says:

      Some people use the 80/20 rule— 80% information and inspiration, 20% sales. Some use the 90/10 rule which feels even better to me.

  5. Patricia says:

    today, people on social media are very very astute! They see a scam or underlying anything! Behooves anyone to try to fool the masses!!! great job! P

    • Heather Price says:

      There are ALL types of people on social media! This lady was a very particular type– glad I found that out before really getting to know her. :)

  6. Daveda says:

    That is MOST annoying and makes you NOT want to work with that person. I’m not a fan of the hard sell or or the desperate help me, help me sale either. I want to be friended on FB because you have a genuine interest in getting to know me, then if you have something that might help me, so be it. Great post!

  7. Liran says:

    So asking you to buy $2000 right now would be wrong? :)

  8. It’s the relationship not the hard sell product, from a good relationship…products have a better likelihood of selling. Thanks Heather

  9. Kim Nesbitt says:

    Good grief, that’s just crazy!!

  10. Jackie says:

    You really reached out to me with this post. I’m experiencing a very similar situation with a friend.

  11. I think she needed $2,000 because she didn’t understand the importance of relationships.

    • Heather Price says:

      enrolling her in a course in HOW to use social media for direct sales would cost less than $2000 but be a WHOLE lot more worthwhile….. :)

  12. I am speechless. I mean…what has to break in a person’s mind for them to think that you are going to buy a product from them when you are part of the same company?!?! I just…I don’t even know what to say. Some people….

    • Heather Price says:

      There is a very specific type of facebook user that thinks facebook is just nameless, faceless pawns who are ALL leads for their business whether or not we’re in the same business, not a friend yet, etc etc.

  13. Wow, that’s pretty brazen. If that’s how she treats a colleague, I’d hate to see how she’d treat a client.

  14. Beautiful analysis and breakdown there Heather. The direct selling industry can be filled with twists and turns from all angles. Unfortunate that they “unfriended” you, but better to discover/uncover this earlier on than later.

    • Heather Price says:

      I never feel unfortunate to be unfriended if it’s someone not meant to be my true friend anyway! The situation just gave me a great idea for this blog post. :)

  15. I never mind people selling to me on social media… Providing they’ve gotten to know me first, build a relationship, understand my needs, given me value or helped me in some way. Providing that’s all in place, then I’ll listen to what they have on offer.

  16. Truth Heather! You friend people because you want to get to know them. Sure it may be a business beginning, but you have to come out of the gates with honest intentions… and not to blast to your friends about buy me buy me buy me! Horrible. Sorry you had to deal with that.

  17. Wow, not cool and very rude! Glad you shared this post, it’s not ok for people to act like that :-(

  18. Shelley Webb says:

    How incredibly rude and what a sad representation of the company that you both share. She is one of the people who won’t do well and then will scream from the rooftops how social media doesn’t work.

  19. Lorii Abela says:

    Good post! Facebook is indeed a very helpful tool in promoting direct sales business when done in an appropriate way. How are you making the most of your Facebook so far?

  20. Heather it doesn’t seem like this should need to be said, but wrong. Many people use social media inappropriately, either by being too pushy/annoying or way to chatty…those people can UN-Friend me any day! – T :)

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